Dating and marriage without intimacy
I know that “all” is a total generalization, but you get my point. Back to my marriage, there were often times when we had fought or just felt distance between us. The implications of all these factors are big because sex is a deep and powerful form of intimacy. There is a deep energetic connection that bonds two people when they make love. It’s not even that two people shared an act of love with someone, that they most likely hold sacred. That doesn’t mean it’s the magical elixir for all that might be off or dysfunctional in a relationship. If you’ve had a hard day and your hackles are all up towards your partner, yet at the end of the day you go to bed and make love, then the chances are that you will soften towards them and feel closer after making love. What I suggesting is this: if you want to feel more connected to your partner but are allowing squabbles and minor disagreements set your emotional agenda, simply let this anger fall away.When your man comes home at the end of the day and is in caveman mode, you don’t take it personally. The big things are more easily handled, especially because there isn’t a backlog of resentment and anger over previous unresolved issues. I do suggest that if you haven’t read it yet that you check out his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert.And when your woman just wants to talk and be heard, you are happy to listen because you know she just needs an ear. It includes excellent tips and guidance on creating and sustaining intimate relationships.
In doing this, there is a stronger bond and a level of goodwill that flows. Well, Gottman teaches much of this in his workshops and writing.You don’t have to be married to learn immensely from this book.And, yes, having a healthy sex life is part of all this.He now specializes in helping women learn how to successfully navigate dating while having a blast and effortlessly drawing in the great men they’ve been looking for. All his efforts landed him a partner who he feels blessed and lucky to be with every day.Having spent many years single, he learned firsthand the ups and downs of dating. He coaches clients in person, by phone and via Skype.